Haters Gonna Hate

You can’t please all the people all the time, but you can please Allah with worship and good deeds and the rewards from the Almighty are much more worthwhile.

A man, his wife, and their donkey were traveling through town on their way to the market. The man and his wife were both walking beside the donkey when someone shouted, “Look at these two fools! They have a donkey but they are not riding it. What’s the point of the donkey!?” Upon hearing this the man helped his wife on to the donkey and they carried on their journey. A while down the path they heard another person say, “Look at this man! Talk about whipped. His wife rides on the donkey like the Queen of Sheba while her tired, old husband has to walk alongside.” The wife didn’t like that so she told her husband to ride on the donkey whilst she walks for a bit. Then they passed by a lady and she said, “Look at this lazy man making his wife walk whilst he rides on the donkey. How lazy!” By now the husband and wife were a bit confused on what to do so they chatted for a while and decided that they should both ride the donkey together. So they carried on their way confident that nobody would have any further objections, but then they passed a group of people and they started muttering amongst themselves, “Look how they abuse that poor old donkey! How do they expect the donkey to carry them both!”

Moral of the Story: You can never please the people. No matter what you do someone will find fault with it. So what should we do? Instead of trying to please the people, instead change your focus to pleasing Allah, because Allah, the Most High, said:

“The enjoyment of (worldly) desires—women, children, treasures of gold and silver, fine horses, cattle, and fertile land—has been made appealing to people. These are the pleasures of this worldly life, but with Allah is the finest destination. Say (O Prophet), ‘Shall I inform you of what is better than all of this? Those mindful of their Lord will have Gardens under which rivers flow, to stay there forever, and pure spouses, and the pleasure of Allah.’ And Allah is All-Seeing of (His) slaves.” (Aali Imran:14-15)

And He, the Almighty said:

“As for those who believe and perform good deeds, then the Most Merciful will bestow upon them love.” (Maryam:96)

And this hadith of the Prophet ﷺ explains how that love will be bestowed upon them, he ﷺ said:

“If Allah, the Most High, loves (His) slave, He calls out to Jibril, ‘Indeed, Allah, the Most High, loves so and so, so love him.’ So Jibril will love him and he will call out to the people of the Heavens, ‘Indeed, Allah loves so and so, so love him’ So the people of the Heavens will love him, the Allah will place the acceptance (of his love) on the Earth.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

The way to achieve Allah’s love and pleasure is through obedience and acts of worship, Allah, said:

“Indeed, those who believe and do good—they are the best of (all) beings. Their reward with their Lord will be Gardens of Eternity, under which rivers flow, to stay there for ever and ever. Allah is pleased with them and they are pleased with Him. This is (only) for those in awe of their Lord.” (Al-Bayinah:8)

And the Prophet ﷺ said:

“Allah, the Most High, says, ‘My slave will continue to perform voluntary acts of worship until I love him, and if I love him then I will be his hearing that he hears with, his sight that he sees with, his hand with which he reaches out, and his legs with which he walks.’” (Al-Bukhari)

And sometimes pleasing Allah means that you will have to upset some of the people of the Dunya, even if those people are your closest relatives and friends. Allah said in the Quran:

“You will never find a people who truly believe in Allah and the Last Day who are loyal to those who oppose Allah and His Messenger even if they were their parents, children, siblings, or extended family. For those believers, Allah has instilled faith in their hearts and strengthened them with a spirit from Him. He will admit them into Gardens under which rivers flow, to stay there forever. Allah is pleased with them and they with Him. They are the party of Allah. Indeed, Allah’s party is bound to succeed.” (Al-Mujadilah:22)

So do not despair at the critics criticising or the haters hating. These people cannot be pleased; they have a disease in their hearts that makes it impossible for them to be happy at the sight of someone working hard to succeed. Ubadah bin Samit reported that the Prophet ﷺ took an oath from a number of the Sahabah that they would stand for the truth where ever they are without fearing the blame of the blamers (Al-Bukhari).

The Muslim man knows his religion and practices what he knows with confidence. He is a man of principles and he unapologetically stands by those principles even when it is not the status quo or the popular opinion. The Prophet ﷺ said:

“The religion started off as strange and will return to being strange, so give glad tidings to the strangers.” (Muslim)

The popular opinion isn’t always the right one, but those who have the courage to stand by what is true and what is just will be loved and remembered for it in the long run, even if they are attacked and misunderstood at the time of their stand. Those who cowwer, apologise and seek to appease the critics will be dismissed and forgotten.

For example:

The Prophet and his followers were attacked and slandered for their beliefs only for his attackers and slanderers to then accept his teachings and embrace Islam within less than a decade.

Imam Ahmad was imprisoned and tortured because he refused to say that the Quran was created. Today he is remembered better than the rulers who imprisoned him, more than a thousand years after his death and his madhhab is followed by millions of Muslims worldwide.

Martin Luther King was attacked and criticized for standing up against the oppression of blacks in America only for him to become one of the most revered figures of American history.

Nelson Mandela was labeled a terrorist and was imprisoned only for him to go on to become the president of South Africa after his release.

Muhammad Ali was convicted, stripped of his boxing titles, and banned from boxing for 4 years because of his opposition to the Vietnam war and the white establishment only for him to become one of the most beloved and respected athletes of all time.

Stay true to your beliefs, don’t sacrifice your principles for the sake of acceptance, and don’t fear the blame of the blamers.

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Share the Wealth

The Muslim man is generous with his wealth. He understands that the real purpose of money is to spend it on his loved ones.

The Muslim man is generous with his wealth, because he knows that generosity doesn’t diminish his wealth, in fact it increases it. Allah subhananhu wa ta’la said:

“Who will give Allah a goodly loan so he may multiply it many times.” (Al-Baqarah:245)

And Ibn Abbas said about the Prophet ﷺ:

“The Messenger of Allah was the most generous of the people and he was most generous during Ramadan.” (Al-Bukhari)

Generosity increases wealth because it shows that you are appreciative of Allah’s blessings and know that your sustenance is from Him and not just your own efforts, and Allah rewards those who are thankful.

John Templeton, one of the greatest investors of the 20th century, said:

“I have observed 100,000 families over my years of investment counselling. I always saw greater prosperity and happiness among those families who tithed (gave charity) more often.”

And this something repeated by Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, Oprah, and other successful business people.

There is a greater benefit than this for the Muslim man… generosity raises your stature and covers your faults in this life and is a source of abundant rewards in the next life. Allah can bless you with wealth and then take it all away in an instant, and once you are dead it ceases to be of any benefit, so why hold on to it with such vehemence?

The Muslim man knows that the real benefit of money and wealth lies in supporting your family and giving it to others, because generosity leads to happiness and success in the Dunya and the Hereafter. Nothing can raise your honor, stature and remembrance among the people better than generosity, and nothing can ruin your honor more than miserliness.

But how should the Muslim man spend his hard earned money? The Prophet (saw) said:

“The best dinar that a man can spend is the dinar spent on his family.” (Ibn Majah)

So the Muslim man spends first on his household, then on his relatives, then on his friends and then on the general people. The people that the Muslim man does not give his money to are those who are mentally impaired, either due to an affliction or due to an addiction to drugs, alcohol, or gambling, because, at best, they will waste the money, at worst, they will spend it on haram.

“And do not give the weak-minded your property, which Allah has made a means of sustenance for you, but provide for them with it and clothe them and speak to them words of appropriate kindness.” (An-Nisa:5)

If the Muslim man wants to give to someone like this, then he donates his money to individuals and organisations who are responsible for helping them, or he buys food and clothing for them instead of giving them cash.

So spend generously on your loved ones and you will soon see the reward for your generosity, inshallah.